Make the Buses function like the Buses in Pro Tools

Another approach you could take is to go into VST connections with the output configed to show all your outputs, save that as a preset. Then remove the outputs you don’t want to normally see and save that as a different preset. Then you won’t see the extra buses unless you load your “all outputs” preset.

If I’m reading you right (having had only the slightest exposure to PT), then you should use Group Tracks to do this.